You know… I’m starting to think that we won’t see the end of body-shaming in our lifetime.
According to O, The Oprah Magazine you can wear a crop top “if (and only if!) you have a flat stomach”. As you can see, it goes on to imply that anything *other than* a flat stomach requires “more coverage” and, a fat girl’s favorite advice – MORE LAYERS.
Stunning, coming from a celebrity with decades of body image struggles. Then again, this is a magazine… with a sales ad right beneath the ‘advice’… so what do we expect?
How about “not being told what we can / cannot wear”??
We are living in the time of the Fatkini… the #EffYourBeautyStandards movement… more plus-size fashion bloggers than we can lovingly shake a doughnut at, for Pete’s sake, and yet here we are, being told there are limitations on what we can “feel free to try”.
Oh, that’s right. This goes against the “A Fat Girl Should Never” ideals!
“A Fat Girl Should Never show her skin because she might exude confidence that would intimidate those who are surrounding her.
A Fat Girl Should Never show her skin because she might make it painfully obvious that she’s different. The world doesn’t need unique and divergent people.
A Fat Girl Should Never show her skin because she might interpret it as being brave. We don’t need Fat girls running around feeling brave. We don’t need Fat girls thinking that they have to be brave to be themselves. We don’t need Fat girls thinking that they have to be brave to show their skin. There shouldn’t be a bravery that comes along when others are sure to ridicule and humiliate you.
A Fat Girl Should Never show her skin because she might make those around her uncomfortable with the power it gives her to not give a fuck.
She doesn’t give a fuck because nobody should give a fuck. It’s no secret that she’s fat.
If the whole world can see that she’s fat why then must she hide it?
Who is she hiding it from?
Why is she hiding it?
Why are we making her hide it?”
… and we all know that confidence, being different, embracing that difference, bravery, power and no-fucks-given are qualities and rights reserved for those whom society currently has seated atop their money-making pedestal.
That’s what so much of this is about… our emotions and mental states be damned, apparently.
Don’t believe me?
Cool. Here are some stats for your hungry brainy-parts!
The diet phenomenon, Jenny Craig, was bought by Swiss multinational Nestlé, which also sells… you know… chocolate and ice cream. In 2011, Nestlé was listed in Fortune’s Global 500 as the world’s most profitable company.
Weight Watchers, created by New York housewife Jean Nidetch in the early 1960s, was bought by Heinz (ketchup!) in 1978, who in turn sold the company in 1999 to investment firm Artal for $735m. Jennifer Hudson, Jessica Simpson and Charles Barkley appreciate your business, beeteedubs.
The next in line was Slimfast, (or, “How I Tried To Lose Over 100 lbs In High School So That I’d Finally Stop Dreaming Of Suicide Attempts Every Night After My Theater Nerd Friends Would Make Fat Jokes Right In Front Of Me”) invented by chemist and entrepreneur Danny Abraham, which was bought in 2000 by Unilever, which also owns the Ben & Jerry brand (more ice cream!) and Wall’s sausages (why isn’t there sausage ice cream? Wait, sorry.).
The food and diet industries are holding hands underneath the table.
If they don’t care that they are messing with our happiness, why should we?
Again… why are we making her (us) hide it?
#RockTheCrop is going strong on Instagram and Twitter right now, and I encourage you to check it out for yourself. No, a hashtag craze isn’t likely to solve the problem of being manipulated by the media and food industries, but immersing yourself in positive messaging and imagery *can* start altering your perception and belief about what you ‘can’ and ‘cannot’ do… and that is a powerful thing indeed.